Depression in Men ‘regularly ignored’

Men are twice as likely as women to have their depression written off as nothing more than feeling a little low, according to a study of our attitudes to mental health.

man depression

Society’s assumption that men are “tough” means both sexes are less likely to recognise telltale signs of depression in them, according to University of Westminster researcher.

And while one might think that men would be better at spotting symptoms in their brethren, the opposite is actually true. They are even more blind to emotional distress in other men than women are.

Researchers reached their conclusions after asking more than 1,200 people to gauge if two fictional characters were suffering from a mental health problem.

Half were asked to assess the state of a character called ‘Jack’ and half a character called ‘Kate’.

They were read a paragraph about these characters – but the only difference between them was their gender.

It started: “For the past two weeks, Kate / Jack has been feeling really down. S/he wakes up in the morning with a flat, heavy feeling that sticks with her / him all day.”

Fifty-seven per cent thought that ‘Kate’ was suffering from a mental health problem, while only 52 per cent thought that ‘Jack’ was.
And while 10 per cent were positive ‘Kate’ was not suffering from a mental health problem, twice as many (21 per cent) thought that of ‘Jack’.

The remainder were unsure.

Men and women were equally likely to think that ‘Kate’ was suffering from depression.

But men were almost twice as likely as women to think that ‘Jack’ did not have a mental disorder.

Dr Viren Swami, who wrote the article, published in the journal PLoS One, said: “In our society men are led to believe that they don’t suffer from depression.”

Dominant views of masculinity “stress toughness and strength”, he explained.

“Men tend to deny having depression in the first place. They tend to think their feelings are just part of daily life.”

This meant it was “quite possible” that they dismissed the possibility of depression in other men, he said.

Another study from Malaysia found men tend to cite specific reasons for feeling low, such as not having a girlfriend or having an unfulfilling job, rather than admitting to depression.


Original article.

Improve Your Relationship, Say Thank You.

It seems like the simplest thing to say, so how can it make such a difference? That’s the thing, it’s so simple that we forget, but saying thank you really can improve your relationship.

Happy Couple

A study conducted by Amie Gordon, of the University of California, Berkeley showed that it can improve a couple’s relationship and even prevent them breaking up.

“Feeling appreciated by your partner influences how you act in your relationship, and how much you want to stay in that relationship.”

The study included 50 undergraduates who had been in relationships for around 15 months and had them fill out questionnaires each night for a week.

The questionnaires included questions about how appreciated each participant felt by their partner and how appreciated they had been towards their partner that day.

Nine months later the participants were given another survey, which detailed questions about their relationship.

It was found that if a participant had been appreciated by their partner one day, the next day they were more appreciative towards their partner.

“Instead of just waiting for the other person to make you feel good, you can jumpstart that cycle and take it into your own hands by focusing on what’s good in your relationship.”

The participants who were more appreciated and appreciative of their partners were also less likely to have broken up nine months later.

“What goes wrong in a lot of relationships is if you start to take your partner for granted. You get used to having them in your life and forget why you chose to be with them.

The punch line is really that being appreciative of your partner is beneficial in helping you want to maintain your relationship.

When you are appreciative and you notice the value in your partner, it helps you realize what you have and makes you want to hold on to it.  You have something good and you think, ‘I want to keep it.’ You are more responsive, you tend to their needs, and you are more thoughtful.”

Its two words, simple to say and could save your relationship!

Original Article by Cara Mason.