“How to create outstanding Relationships in every area of your life”
Anytime two people meet, a third world is formed, a different universe that’s unlike any you’ve ever known. Appreciating and cherishing that world is what allows you to transform your life and your Relationship.
Love has a spiritual quality that most of us only touch on a few times in our lives – When we really love someone, there’s a dynamic change that occurs with us: we stop focusing on ourselves.When you are in Love with someone, the first thing that happens is that time disappears. Then you find that you need nothing else because you’re getting exactly what you need! The third thing that happens is that you disappear. It is not about you anymore – and that is when you experience your greatest joy.But pretty soon, things can change; you begin creating expectations about how your Relationship should be. You try to bend this wild, unexplored spiritual territory to your will, trying to force it to fit your own expectations and requirements, instead of simply growing along with it. You start creating rules and measuring whether the Love you’ve receiving is enough or not.
In other words, it becomes all about you, and that’s when Love starts to die.
This has nothing to do with how long you’ve been together; it has to do with a pattern. Once you develop a Belief System, you find a way to fulfill it. This happens not just in our most intimate Relationships but also with our children, our friends, people we work with.
When you are connecting with others you have a model for how they should be. If they don’t match your model, you start questioning everything:
- Have I lied to myself?
- Have they said they Love me but they don’t?
- Are my expectations too high?
- Am I not beautiful enough?
- Successful enough?
- Smart enough?
- Am I Not Enough?
These are the deep, internal questions that most people don’t want to answer or answer too quickly and easily just to get closure.What makes people so sad and depressed about their Relationship is their learned helplessness. They don’t know how to win. They start to win – they get so much joy out of the Love they receive – but then they begin to believe it doesn’t last. It’s not that it doesn’t last, it that they don’t understand the dynamics of what creates that chemistry and keeps it alive.For a decade I have been obsessed with answering the question, what makes people do what they do? Why is it that so many of us say we want to serve, to Love, to help someone, we want a Relationship, but every day we do either something that keeps us from moving forward or something that actually moves us in the opposite direction.
I’ve worked with hundreds of people in different countries, helping them figure out who they really are, what they want their life to really represent, and where the meaning is for them. How do we learn from the life challenges we face and then master them? How do we end up on the other side, where we don’t just protect our life, our identity, or our ego, but transcend what stops and limits us?
Here’s your choices: Give up, Live in fear, be mad with everybody else, Run for cover, and live in anxiety – Or do what’s necessary to develop the muscle to live your life at the richest level you’ve ever dreamed of, in a place you never would have gotten to if these challenges had not shown up.
The quality of your life comes down to one question: How deep are you willing to go?
All Happiness comes from one word, Progress. We grow or we die. There is no other choice, and life’s problems and our Relationships give us the biggest challenges to grow. Because nowhere else does our deepest fear show up: That we are not enough. To feel like we are worthless is to feel like we are dead psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually.
I see this fear in action everyday.
In my workshops and Retreats, I interact constantly with people who are suicidal, suffering from life long depression, facing divorce or bankruptcy, people who have lost their children or spouses, or have been traumatised by rape or sexual abuse. In each case, I’m on the stop in the laboratory of life.
As a psychotherapist, I’ve learned how to mobilise instantly and figure out what’s really going on, what’s stopping someone, what he or she needs, and how to create a shift.
We have called this Retreat Love, Relationship & Family Breakthrough because most people, at some point, feel stuck in the patterns of their Relationships whatever your challenges are, this Retreat will bring you to a place clarity, insight, and results.
In this Love, Relationship & Family Breakthrough Retreat you’ll learn how you can recapture, rekindle, or deepen Love in any intimate Relationship.
I’ll show you how to communicate with your spouse, children, and others in ways that invigorate and motivate them to take positive action. You’ll also find ways to resolve long-standing, persistent conflicts between family members simply by making a change within yourself.I’m confident that this Retreat will start you on that journey with more momentum than you’d ever imagined possible, simply because it’s based on real-life experiences and real people.