Mental Health Statistics: Suicide

It’s estimated that around one million people will die by suicide worldwide each year. 

Suicide remains the most common cause of death in men under the age of 35 (Five Years On, Department Of Health, 2005).

Mental Health: Suicide

More than 5700 people in the UK died by suicide in 2010 (Samaritans Information Resource Pack, 2012).

British men are three times as likely as British women to die by suicide (Samaritans Information Resource Pack, 2004).

The suicide rate among people over 65 has fallen by 24% in recent years, but is still high compared to the population overall. (Samaritans Information Resource Pack, 2004).

If you’re dealing with depression, seeking treatment for abuse or having problems conquering other personal issues and would like to learn more about how our bespoke health retreats could benefit you, visit www.breakthrough-retreats.co.uk. There you’ll be able to claim your free copy of my new guide, “Unlocking your full potential: An introduction to the incredible impact of personal development retreats”, packed with information on everything from what a spiritual retreat looks like to the benefits of getting away from it all.

Information from here: http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/help-information/mental-health-statistics/suicide/

Mental Health Statistics: Men & Women

mental health men womenWomen are more likely to have been treated for a mental health problem than men (29% compared to 17%). This could be because, when asked, women are more likely to report symptoms of common mental health problems. (Better Or Worse: A Longitudinal Study Of The Mental Health Of Adults In Great Britain, National Statistics, 2003)

Depression is more common in women than men. 1 in 4 women will require treatment for depression at some time, compared to 1 in 10 men. The reasons for this are unclear, but are thought to be due to both social and biological factors. It has also been suggested that depression in men may have been under diagnosed because they present to their GP with different symptoms.  (National Institute For Clinical Excellence, 2003)

Women are twice as likely to experience anxiety as men. Of people with phobias or OCD, about 60% are female.  (The Office for National Statistics Psychiatric Morbidity report, 2001)

Men are more likely than women to have an alcohol or drug problem. 67% of British people who consume alcohol at ‘hazardous’ levels, and 80% of those dependent on alcohol are male. Almost three quarters of people dependent on cannabis and 69% of those dependent on other illegal drugs are male. (The Office for National Statistics Psychiatric Morbidity report, 2001)

 

If you’re dealing with mental health issues, depression, seeking treatment for abuse or having problems conquering other personal issues and would like to learn more about how our bespoke health retreats could benefit you, visit www.breakthrough-retreats.co.uk. There you’ll be able to claim your free copy of my new guide, “Unlocking your full potential: An introduction to the incredible impact of personal development retreats”, packed with information on everything from what a spiritual retreat looks like to the benefits of getting away from it all.

 

Article information from here: http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/help-information/mental-health-statistics/men-women/

10 Ways to Look After Your Mental Health

anxiety awareAnyone can make simple changes that have a huge impact on their mental health and wellbeing. We’ve come up with ten practical ways to take care of yourself and get the most from life.

Mental health is about the way you think and feel and your ability to deal with ups and downs. Making simple changes to how you live doesn’t need to cost a fortune or take up loads of time. Anyone can follow our advice.

 

Talk About Your Feelings

Talking about your feelings can help you stay in good mental health and deal with times when you feel troubled. It’s part of taking charge of your wellbeing and doing what you can to stay healthy.

 

Eat Well

There are strong links between what we eat and how we feel – for example, caffeine and sugar can have an immediate effect. But food can also have a long-lasting effect on your mental health.

 

Keep in Touch

Friends and family can make you feel included and cared for. They can offer different views from whatever’s going on inside your own head. They can help keep you active, keep you grounded and help you solve practical problems.

 

Take a Break

A change of scene or a change of pace is good for your mental health. It could be a five-minute pause from cleaning your kitchen, a half-hour lunch break at work or a weekend exploring somewhere new. A few minutes can be enough to de-stress you.

 

Accept Who You Are

Some of us make people laugh, some are good at maths, and others cook fantastic meals. Some of us share our lifestyle with the people who live close to us, others live very differently. We’re all different.

 

Keep Active

Experts believe exercise releases chemicals in your brain that make you feel good. Regular exercise can boost your self-esteem and help you concentrate, sleep, look and feel better. Exercise also keeps the brain and your other vital organs healthy.

 

Drink Sensibly

We often drink alcohol to change our mood. Some people drink to deal with fear or loneliness, but the effect is only temporary.

 

Ask for Help

None of us are superhuman. We all sometimes get tired or overwhelmed by how we feel or when things go wrong. If things are getting too much for you and you feel you can’t cope, ask for help.

 

Do Something You’re Good At

What do you love doing? What activities can you lose yourself in? What did you love doing in the past? Enjoying yourself helps beat stress. Doing an activity you enjoy probably means you’re good at it and achieving something boosts your self-esteem.

 

Care for Others

Caring for others is often an important part of keeping up relationships with people close to you. It can even bring you closer together.

 

If you’re dealing with depression, seeking treatment for abuse or having problems conquering other personal issues and would like to learn more about how our bespoke health retreats could benefit you, visit www.breakthrough-retreats.co.uk. There you’ll be able to claim your free copy of my new guide, “Unlocking your full potential: An introduction to the incredible impact of personal development retreats”, packed with information on everything from what a spiritual retreat looks like to the benefits of getting away from it all.

Welcome to The Briers Country House; New Retreat Centre Review

We ran our first retreat at our custom Retreat Centre earlier this month. We were so bowled over by the review that we got from our very treasured Dr client that we had to share it with you. Our treasured client also provided us with some lovely pictures that we know you will appreciate. Please enjoy his words.

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The Retreat

The retreat was well organised and ran smoothly.  The experience sought to achieve a holistic healing of mind, body and spirit and involved a number of different psychological and holistic therapies/techniques.  In between specific therapies, there was ample time to chat with Maureen (Courtney) to explore issues and to provide feedback about therapies.

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Location-wise, the retreat centre could not have been better placed: The Briers is situated on the outskirts of Newcastle, County Down, in close proximity to the Tollymore Forest, the Mourne Mountains and the Irish Sea, an ideal place to “get back to nature” and a sanctuary to find peace and serenity.

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The Therapists

Therapists I worked with in the Breakthrough Retreats team included:

  • Gareth for Bio Cranial Sacral therapy
  • Joanne for Reflexology
  • Jacquie for EMDR
  • Janine for Massage
  • As well as Maureen for Hypnosis, reiki, journey therapy, regression therapy

All the therapists I worked with were very friendly, supportive and positive; it was very easy to build rapport with them.  Each therapist is very experienced and an expert in their field, and passionate about holistic therapy.

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As the organiser of the retreat, Maureen was the therapist with whom I spent the most time.  She was very friendly and approachable, and in between specific therapies, I found it easy to chat to her about my issues and also about my own developing interests in holistic healing.  In her capacity as hostess, Maureen was always keen to make sure that my stay at The Briers was comfortable and pleasant.

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NI Bootcamp Activities

Incorporating outdoor / adventure activities into the retreat was inspirational.  Ian, from NI Bootcamp (Who Breakthrough Retreats work in conjunction with to produce the outdoor leg of their Retreats), was a joy to work with; a gentleman, professional, passionate about what he does, he provided me with support and motivation in all activities we did together (running + circuits, mountain biking, hill walking, indoor climbing).  Ian was very easy to talk to, and share personal experiences with; we found that we had similar personalities and issues and I found chatting with him to be inspiring and illuminating.

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Food, Accommodation & Hospitality

The Briers Country House was like a home away from home; very comfortable and peaceful, an ideal place to escape from the hustle and bustle of 21st Century life.  The room I had would have been able to sleep 3 people (one double bed and one single) and had an en suite toilet and bath/shower.

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The home-cooked food was wonderful and well-portioned: with a choice of breakfasts, including full, cooked Ulster breakfast, smoked salmon and scrambled eggs, porridge, cereals, toast, fruit and yoghurt. The three-course dinners were always tasty and satisfying.

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Maureen was a wonderful host.  She was keen to make my stay as pleasant and as comfortable as possible. Maureen was also very kind enough to do some laundry for me (after I had got a bit muddy doing some of the NI Bootcamp activities).

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If you are interested in hearing more about our Group Retreats at The Briers then please Contact Us.

What exactly is transpersonal psychotherapy?

Having trained for five years to become a transpersonal therapist, this is an area of particular expertise for me.

Forming a large part of our health retreats, this incredibly effective form of therapy healing involves searching for the origin of your problem (be it stress, depression, anxiety or addiction) and helping you recognise negative behaviours in yourself and develop the means to tackle them effectively. Transpersonal psychotherapy sessions may also involve looking at your situation on a spiritual level. Lots of people have spiritual beliefs which are different to those of their family, which can be extremely difficult to come to terms with. Similarly, dream analysis can form an important part of these sessions.

In short, transpersonal therapy, like other effective mental therapy treatments such as hypnotherapy, is concerned with tracing everything back to its root cause. Often this won’t be immediately apparent, but will emerge gradually after several sessions at your retreat centre. For example, if you are struggling to deal with stress and anxiety, though you might initially think work is to blame, we may discover in the course of the therapy that the real cause is an inability to deal with abuse suffered in the past at the hands of parents or partners. Whatever the origin of your problem, identifying it is a huge step towards tackling and overcoming it, and essential if you are to be able to live the life you want in the future.

If you’re dealing with depression, seeking treatment for abuse or having problems conquering other personal issues and would like to learn more about how a break at one of our retreat centres could benefit you, visit www.breakthrough-retreats.co.uk. There you’ll be able to claim your free copy of my new guide, “Unlocking your full potential: An introduction to the incredible impact of personal development retreats”, packed with information on everything from what a spiritual retreat looks like to the benefits of getting away from it all.

How a change of setting can work wonders for those dealing with depression

When it comes to dealing with depression and learning how to be at one with yourself, breaking your current patterns of behaviour is extremely important. Unfortunately, however, despite the fact that many people are unhappy or unsatisfied with the way their life is going, they still neglect to change their daily routine.

A spiritual retreat is the perfect way to get away from your day to day life. Whether you choose a weekend, 5-day or 7-day retreat, putting physical distance between yourself and your normal surroundings can be enormously helpful and allow you to evaluate your lifestyle more effectively.

Whereas therapy healing is usually a somewhat formal affair, in the context of a spiritual retreat, you will be having breakfast, lunch and dinner with your therapist as well as engaging in activities such as yoga with them. This far more informal approach not only creates an atmosphere more conducive to personal development, resulting in clients opening up about themselves much more freely, but also helps to get clients used to incorporating self reflection and development into their daily routine – something that is incredibly useful when the time comes to return to their day-to-day lives.

If you’re dealing with depression, seeking treatment for abuse or having problems conquering other personal issues and would like to learn more about how a spiritual retreat can help, visit www.breakthrough-retreats.co.uk. There you’ll be able to claim your free copy of my new guide, “Unlocking your full potential: An introduction to the incredible impact of personal development retreats”, packed with information on everything from what a spiritual retreat looks like to the benefits of getting away from it all.

Love, Relationships & Family Breakthrough

“How to create outstanding Relationships in every area of your life”

Anytime two people meet, a third world is formed, a different universe that’s unlike any you’ve ever known. Appreciating and cherishing that world is what allows you to transform your life and your Relationship.
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Love has a spiritual quality that most of us only touch on a few times in our lives – When we really love someone, there’s a dynamic change that occurs with us: we stop focusing on ourselves.When you are in Love with someone, the first thing that happens is that time disappears. Then you find that you need nothing else because you’re getting exactly what you need! The third thing that happens is that you disappear. It is not about you anymore – and that is when you experience your greatest joy.But pretty soon, things can change; you begin creating expectations about how your Relationship should be. You try to bend this wild, unexplored spiritual territory to your will, trying to force it to fit your own expectations and requirements, instead of simply growing along with it. You start creating rules and measuring whether the Love you’ve receiving is enough or not.

In other words, it becomes all about you, and that’s when Love starts to die.

This has nothing to do with how long you’ve been together; it has to do with a pattern. Once you develop a Belief System, you find a way to fulfill it. This happens not just in our most intimate Relationships but also with our children, our friends, people we work with.

When you are connecting with others you have a model for how they should be. If they don’t match your model, you start questioning everything:

  • Have I lied to myself?
  • Have they said they Love me but they don’t?
  • Are my expectations too high?
  • Am I not beautiful enough?
  • Successful enough?
  • Smart enough?
  • Am I Not Enough?
These are the deep, internal questions that most people don’t want to answer or answer too quickly and easily just to get closure.What makes people so sad and depressed about their Relationship is their learned helplessness. They don’t know how to win. They start to win – they get so much joy out of the Love they receive – but then they begin to believe it doesn’t last. It’s not that it doesn’t last, it that they don’t understand the dynamics of what creates that chemistry and keeps it alive.For a decade I have been obsessed with answering the question, what makes people do what they do? Why is it that so many of us say we want to serve, to Love, to help someone, we want a Relationship, but every day we do either something that keeps us from moving forward or something that actually moves us in the opposite direction.

I’ve worked with hundreds of people in different countries, helping them figure out who they really are, what they want their life to really represent, and where the meaning is for them. How do we learn from the life challenges we face and then master them? How do we end up on the other side, where we don’t just protect our life, our identity, or our ego, but transcend what stops and limits us?

Here’s your choices: Give up, Live in fear, be mad with everybody else, Run for cover, and live in anxiety – Or do what’s necessary to develop the muscle to live your life at the richest level you’ve ever dreamed of, in a place you never would have gotten to if these challenges had not shown up.

The quality of your life comes down to one question: How deep are you willing to go? 

All Happiness comes from one word, Progress. We grow or we die. There is no other choice, and life’s problems and our Relationships give us the biggest challenges to grow. Because nowhere else does our deepest fear show up: That we are not enough. To feel like we are worthless is to feel like we are dead psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually.

I see this fear in action everyday.

In my workshops and Retreats, I interact constantly with people who are suicidal, suffering from life long depression, facing divorce or bankruptcy, people who have lost their children or spouses, or have been traumatised by rape or sexual abuse. In each case, I’m on the stop in the laboratory of life.

As a psychotherapist, I’ve learned how to mobilise instantly and figure out what’s really going on, what’s stopping someone, what he or she needs, and how to create a shift.

We have called this Retreat Love, Relationship & Family Breakthrough because most people, at some point, feel stuck in the patterns of their Relationships whatever your challenges are, this Retreat will bring you to a place clarity, insight, and results.
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In this Love, Relationship & Family Breakthrough Retreat you’ll learn how you can recapture, rekindle, or deepen Love in any intimate Relationship.
I’ll show you how to communicate with your spouse, children, and others in ways that invigorate and motivate them to take positive action. You’ll also find ways to resolve long-standing, persistent conflicts between family members simply by making a change within yourself.I’m confident that this Retreat will start you on that journey with more momentum than you’d ever imagined possible, simply because it’s based on real-life experiences and real people.
You can find out more here.Excerts from Relationship Breakthrough: How to Create Outstanding Relationships in Every Area of Your Life by Chloe Madness with introduction from Tony Robbins (2009) Rodale Books

 

New Year, New You

It has been an exciting year at Breakthrough Retreats, we have had so many “firsts” to celebrate!

We have had so many enquiries for our “Surviving Christmas” Retreat.  It must be that this is always a stressful time for families as well as people on their own.

We have widened our choice of venue and this has proved a good move and we have some very complimentary responses. But our love for the sea and Cornwall takes us back there time after time, there is no doubt it is a very special environment for mind, body and spirit.

Maureen is currently working on a series of CDs for self-hypnosis – so watch this space.

The whole team has put together a “Zest for Life Program” that can work as a one to one Retreat or in a group situation so if this interests you please register your interest with us and we will send you details when we can launch it. It is all about looking after yourself and having a healthy lifestyle.

Don’t forget that as well the Retreats we are able to offer telephone counselling, We are currently offering, a telephone counselling package, buy 5 half hour sessions and get an extra one free.

If you have any ideas for short courses you would like to do please let us know and we can probably come up with something! We always like to hear from you so whether you are booking a Retreat or not! Go to “contact us” and keep in touch, speak to you soon!

Autumn Stocks at Breakthrough Retreats

We are looking out on a wonderful display of trees, every colour of autumn and it reminds us of how important it is to be in tune with the seasons and to use each to advantage.  This time of the year is associated with honouring our ancestry and being grateful for resilience and the cycle of life. When our relationships are fraught we can lose sight of the bigger picture and forget to enjoy all the world has on offer.

autumn at Breakthrough Retreats

Autumn is a time for taking stock and making sure you have a full larder for the forthcoming winter months.  You can do this in all sorts of areas of your life by celebrating your achievements and planning for even more.  If you are ready for this but do not know what to do “pick up the phone” and arrange a “plan and prosper” session!

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Summer Wine

We are due to schedule a new Group Retreat. Over the next few weeks we will be blogging a series of questions, poses and motivational thoughts to inspire you to think about joining us. Enjoy!

Do you have a project that you want to come to fruition?  Will it be a vintage year for you?  Have you started something important in your life but got stuck?  Need to find out how to bring your project to maturity?  We can help you recapture your motivation and make it happen!

Summer Wine

Always starting something but never finishing it? Learn to focus, think big, and build a bigger picture. Visualise what you are really capable of and know that you will achieve it. Let go of those old patterns of behaviour and step forward with courage and commitment.

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